Deep Thoughts,  Mom,  Ovarian Cancer

Mourning But Moving On

This Friday, the 26th, is the second anniversary of my mom’s death. Here is the first column I wrote about her death, and “A Blessing” provides a few more details. Here is what I wrote about the occasion last year.

You’ll see that some of these columns have tags under them– you can click on the tag “ovarian cancer” to locate other posts discussing my mom and her disease.

If you live in Alabama and you want to support research efforts for ovarian cancer, you can go to your county license plate office and ask the clerk for a commitment to purchase a special plate demonstrating your support. The plate costs $50, and $41.25 of that goes to the Oncology/Gynecology Department at UAB. This department performed my ovarian cancer risk assessment and is top-notch.

In Jefferson County you can go to the main courthouse or any satellite office and get in the tag line to fill out the paperwork. The $50 is tax deductible. The number to call is 205 856 8815.

You can also donate directly through the Norma Livingston Ovarian Cancer Foundation.

I’d appreciate it if readers in other Alabama counties would use the comments to provide information about the procedure to follow to obtain an ovarian cancer license plate in your neck of the woods. For those of you in other states, if you know of a special way to assist ovarian cancer research, please share. Please limit your causes to ovarian cancer, please.

Although I’ll be helping raise funds for Parkinson’s disease Friday, I’ve set aside some time to meet with my pastor and to think about my mom. As I raise my boys,  I continually see how much I was influenced by her, and I’ll be eternally grateful for that.

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25 Comments

  • Shelley

    I, too, lost my mom a couple of years ago, and I see every day how much influence she had on me in being a mother to my girls. It’s still very hard, and I miss her terribly, especially this time of year when we have so many family holidays to celebrate. I’ll be thinking of you and your family.

  • amy

    Oh, what to say? I’m so sorry. My mother died this past August. I’m realizing it’s just something you live with the rest of your life. I dreamt about her the other night. It didn’t make me feel any better at all.

  • Candy

    My mother passed away almost exactly a year after my father, and one month after my youngest child was born 14 years ago. Strangely enough, she too died from ovarian cancer. She would be in her 80s now, and from a time when, although she’d had a hysterectomy years before, didn’t think she had to go to a gynecologist anymore. I and my sisters get screened every year now.

    Thanks for the links, Anne. And warm thought to you while you go through this time.

  • boomama

    In Shelby County you can go to the offices in Pelham…or if you’d prefer not to wait in line for a sweet forever and have your testimony intact when you leave, you can go to Columbiana (lovely people there) or the Inverness Corners satellite office, which I think is the best-kept secret in our lovely city.

    Saying a prayer for you…

  • Barbara

    My condolences to you and your family. There really are no other words, no matter how much time has passed.

  • alala

    Oh wow, I knew it was around the same time of year, but I didn’t realize it was the same year! My mom died two years ago last Monday, October 22nd. This is a tough time, particularly since the 26th is Secondborn’s birthday, and Firstborn’s birthday is in about seven weeks, so I do a lot of thinking about how much I wish she were still in their lives.

  • Cassie

    Just want to send you many cyber hugs now. I know it’s not easy. Take care, and I’ll be saying a special prayer.

  • Amanda

    I haven’t gotten around to writing about it on my blog yet (it’s almost too late!) but in October L’Oreal does a special “Color of Hope” line of makeup proceeds of which go toward ovarian cancer. The colors are fantastic (especially the lipstick, which works on ANY skin tone) and it’s a fun way to help out a good cause. Oh, and I’ve found that CVS is the place most likely to be carrying this line.

    I’ll be thinking of you. Take care!

  • Karin

    My best to you Anne. My mother died 12 years ago, and just recently I have started laughing at some of the funny things she said. It takes time not to feel terribly sad. I have donated for breast cancer before so maybe next time I will give to Ovarian cancer foundation instead.

  • Ballooner

    My mom died April 30. Her body was worn out, and it was time, but I’m still stunned and don’t know how to feel.

  • Laura

    I can’t imagine not talking to my mom at least 5 times a day. We are coming to see her this weekend. I will definately give her an extra hug and tell I her I love her. Thank you for reminding me to appreciate her while she is still here.

  • twinkie

    My grandmother died from Parkinsons Disease this past July 26th. Thank you for fund raising for that disease at the same time as Ovarian Cancer in your mom’s honor. Both are terrible diseases. My grandmother was about 2 months shy of her 90th birthday when she died from Parkinson’s disease. I honestly don’t remember her being in control of her body for a long time; I don’t think she had walked in over 15 years. She was a tough woman to live so long with such a terrible diesease. My prayers go out to you and your family on the aniversary of your mom’s death.

  • Debbie

    I lost my Mom when I was 17 and she was my best friend. Although I don’t have the grief that I did at the time of her passing or the years after I still miss her. It is a loss that is huge (esp if you are close). There is no Mom to see your children or be with you when you try on your wedding gown. No Mom to learn those family recipes from. No Mom to give you the advise only a Mom can give. My prayers are with you.
    Debbie aka The Real World Martha

  • melissa

    i have a friend, who, after giving birth almost 3 years ago, was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. strangely enough, it was found through her six week postpartum pap smear. it had spread through her entire body. through chemo, it was put into remission but, shortly after, it came back. she is still alive, and doing an experimental program in california. right now, her numbers are normal. but, i feel for you! just going through this with her, it has been a nightmare.
    take care,
    melissa

  • Tara

    I’m so sorry for your pain. And also thank you for your efforts to raise money for Parkinsons. My father died Dec 26, 1995 with this disease that he had lived with for many years. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of him and how he would enjoy my husband (whom he never knew) and his grandkids. We can never truly get past the loss of our parents, no matter how old we get.

  • momto3cubs

    My sincere condolences on the loss of your mother.

    Just from her photo, I can tell she was a wonderful lady.

    She lives on through all who knew her.

    Hugs and prayers for you.